Are You Planning To Give Up Smoking? Tips That Helped Me


When cigarettes had brand names...

When cigarettes had brand names…

So we’re only a couple of hours away from welcoming in 2013. I adore New Year’s Eve and last year we celebrated with a ripper party at our house that went till the wee hours of the morning. Friends brought kids and the sunroom area was awash with water from screaming tikes running wet from the pool through our midst.  I’m sure I stayed up extra late, knowing that once I went to bed, it was all over. Smoking, that is. Yes, my resolution last year was to GIVE UP SMOKING.



Most people who know me didn’t think I could. I’d tried many times before and when the last time didn’t work for me, I declared, ‘I’ve given up GIVING UP.’ MY theory was that there was no point. Smokers would always be smokers – that the urge would never leave them, or me. What mostly happened when I gave up is that I became shockingly cranky, stacked on weight and then ended up taking it up again six months later. So what was the point?

I wasn’t what you’d call a chronic smoker. Mostly I didn’t have my first cigarette of the day till the afternoon. It was a ‘reward’ – a time for some ‘time out’ with a coffee after a hard morning’s work. Even if I hadn’t worked hard. And while I might only have smoked half a dozen cigarettes a day, smoking with friends while drinking, meant the number would increase rapidly. It was a treat – an indulgence.

Smoking while reading Jackie Collins

Smoking while reading Jackie Collins

I’d smoked regularly since I was eighteen, although had choked on my first cigarette at around fifteen. Then most of the men I dated smoked too, so it was easy to keep puffing away. Here’s a trashy picture – at 26, in Italy with Fletch, caught reading Jackie Collins while puffing away in bed. Ewww… but sheez, I loved it.



Then there were the parties, and yes, I’m sure I thought I was glamorous, not knowing how much other people recoiled from my stench.

Big hat party

Big hat party

Did I really think that hat worked? And the cigarette?

Did I really think that hat worked? And the cigarette?









After we had children, I managed to hide my smoking from them until Veronica was about nine. When I thought she was asleep one night, I sat outside and was inhaling deeply when she burst through the back door, pointing at me in horror, saying ,’Mummy! You’re smoking! Oh no, did Daddy make you do it?’ Well of course I had to say, ‘Yes, naughty Daddy! He made me! But I’m giving up tomorrow.’

But I didn’t give up ‘that’ tomorrow all those years ago. And I was nagged and hounded by the kids ever since to give up. Fletch had also struggled with giving up smoking and gave up a few months before me, around October 2011. I hated him because he even made it look easy. But he did use nicotine patches. I promised back then I’d give up after the races, which then turned in to New Year’s Eve.

I knew this time was more serious than other attempts. For many reasons, but of course, the most important has to be for yourself and your health. But for those of you considering giving up – it’s not going to be easy. I did find it hard and I still find it hard occasionally. But there are things you can do to lessen the pain. So here are my tips for giving up:

(1) Buy this book or the CD version. It’s called How To Stop Smoking (and stay stopped for good) by Gillian Riley. I’m not a huge fan of self-help books and usually find them dull, so I bought the CD version and listened to it in the car. I’ve read several books about giving up smoking (including Allan Carr’s) and I think this is the best. It has the most practical approach and it’s not a gimmick. It doesn’t try to fool you into believing there’s one ‘easy’ quick solution. It spells out that you ARE going to find it hard, but tough luck – live through it and endure it, because that’s the only way to beat it. But it does also have some very valuable advice and ideas about how to deal with an addiction. It takes a deeper psychological approach which makes a lot more sense to me, than any form of hypnotherapy or tablet taking.

The best tip from the book is to make a list of all the reasons you are giving up. Then, Gillian says you must always give yourself permission to smoke. But before you actually do, you must read your list and accept you are giving up ALL those incredibly important things – before you light up. That makes it much tougher.

The CD version of Gillian Riley's book 'How to Stop Smoking'

The CD version of Gillian Riley’s book ‘How to Stop Smoking’

Elusion electronic cigarettes

Elusion electronic cigarettes

(2) Buy some electronic cigarettes – not with nicotine filters. I bought the Elusion brand, and while I don’t advocate using these all the time, as that reinforces the notion that smoking IS fun, it’s a good prop when you feel you’re about to break and reach for a cigarette. Basically, you inhale vapour which fulfils that need for something to fill your lungs – even though it’s not nearly as satisfying as the ‘real thing’.

(3) Keep plenty of sugar-free chewing gum on hand. It gives your mouth something to do without absorbing mega-calories.

(4) For the first few months, avoid friends who smoke a lot. This is hard, but I found a lot of my smoker friends really want you to take it up again. You get lines like, ‘Oh, go on, have one! You’d find it easy to be a social smoker!’ And you know they do it because smokers love company and it makes them feel better about their bad habit. But I still get smoking envy if we’re out to dinner and a few of the gang go outside to have a puff…

(5) Make a list of the reasons you are giving up (as suggested by Gillian) and review it regularly. Positive reinforcement is a great motivator.

(6) Remember that if you light up, that cigarette will be the first of hundreds more. It won’t just be ONE.

(7) If you DO break your resolution to give up because of an emotional upset or peer group pressure, or the lessening of will-power under the influence of alcohol – don’t beat yourself up, but get back on the ‘giving up’ band wagon straight away.

And yes, I have broken my resolution several times during the year – but not often, so overall I’m pretty proud to say that I HAVE given up smoking. But this year, one of my resolutions will be to re-affirm my GIVING UP SMOKING vow and to listen again to my Gillian Riley CDs. I hope I can get through 2013 without breaking once. And let’s face it, isn’t it great not to have to wake up to THIS the next morning?

A great reason to give up

A great reason to give up


Happy New Year and my 2013 bring all of you strength with your resolutions and many wonderful surprises!


2 thoughts on “Are You Planning To Give Up Smoking? Tips That Helped Me

  1. Hi Jennifer
    I enjoyed reading your post. I haven’t smoked for almost three years. Back when I did, I was a chain-smoker. It was always “coffee and a cigarette” or “a glass of wine and a cigarette” or “I smoke when I’m stressed” or ” I smoke when I’m contemplating the universe”- and 50 other reasons..
    Back then, the world was a more glamorous place with a cigarette in hand. I was “one of the girls” among my smoker friends. I’d hang out in the smoking rooms at bars and socialise with new people by asking to borrow a lighter. I really hated it initially when the law that banned smoking in nightclubs was enacted.
    So, like you, I found it hard when I quit one day (cold turkey) and threw my last pack of B&H 25s in the bin. The crankyness and weight-gaining set in immediately. This smoke free “healthy” lifestyle didn’t seem so appealing when I was scoffing everything in sight. So up went my weight, and down went my confidence.
    At dinner parties, a table full of people would go outside for a smoke, and there I was alone, waiting for everyone to return, feeling excluded and often craving a cigarette.
    This was hard at first but now that other friends are trying to stop smoking it’s getting easier.
    One thing I love about life as a non-smoker is waking up each morning.
    When I smoked, getting up each day was a challenge. I’d wake up coughing and feeling nauseous because, no matter how much I showered and brushed my teeth, smoking was a dirty habit that was hurting my body and making me sick.
    Being a non-smoker is such a better way to live. I feel like I can breathe now. My friends who still smoke come to me asking for advise on how to quit.
    I think we all have it in us to do it. We forget that as children we never “needed” a cigarette.
    So congrats on spreading the word!
    Happy New Year!
    Anastasia C

    • Congratulations Anastasia – three years is fantastic! And you’re right – it’s much easier now that so few people still smoke. Also agree about feeling fresh and fab in the mornings. I love that my hair no longer smells! Well done and thanks for sharing your story. Jen. 🙂

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